Follow don't lead

Jesus said.."Whoever wishes to come after me must deny himself,
take up his cross, and follow me.
For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it,
but whoever loses his life for my sake
and that of the Gospel will save it.
What profit is there for one to gain the whole world
and forfeit his life?"  Mark 8:34

One day Mother Teresa saw one of her sisters headed out into the streets with a long face. She called her over and said, “What did Jesus say, to carry the cross in front of Him or to follow Him?” The sister responded, smiling, “To follow Him.” Mother then asked, “Why are you trying to go ahead of Him?”

Pretty much says it all, you do not have to be the "sufferer" for all of us, just pick up your cross and follow.  Jesus will lead.  Does make you think there are some of us who like to be professional sufferers.  Always things couldn't be worse.  It is always bad in their lives and doesn't ever get better.  This type of person is leading instead of following.